Wednesday, February 15, 2006
The Bi-Curious Roundtable
The French woman’s magazine Psychologies has since launched the English version . Finally a magazine for women that doesn’t talk about which sexual positions make your boobs look bigger, or how to cook a five course gourmet meal and plant the next award winning geraniums all while wearing the latest power suit from Prada. Psychologies is like your direct, tell-it-like it is therapist at a fraction of the cost. But I’m not here to up sell this magazine, because, well, they’re not paying me to. What I wanted to discuss was an article that I read in one of their issues a couple months back. I tried to find the article on-line to no avail, so my recap will have to do.
The article was discussing female sexuality and comparing it to the rigidness of male sexuality. From Cynthia Nixon , Miranda in Sex and the City doing a 180 and dumping her boyfriend for a woman, to Mischa Barton’s character in the OC dabbling in some Sapphic love to Kate Moss and her crew switch hitting in drug filled orgies to the recent girl on girl action Danni Minogue partook in at a club in London, women are getting it on with each other. While the article discussed the growing trend of “bi-curious chic” among women, it also said the trend is not surprising or even new. According to many, women are genetically programmed to be more lenient with their sexuality than men, stating that most women have a certain degree of bisexuality, where as men are much more black and white.
I personally have to wonder if this is more of a nurture versus nature phenomenon than genetics. Women are encouraged to divulge lesbian fantasies, to kiss their girlfriends when out drinking to attract men. How many women have a “well, it was in college, I was drunk…” story about their ex-roommate? Now imagine your boyfriend mentioning a little drunken romp with one of his frat boys – doesn’t quite give off the same feeling does it? Now is the difference between these two scenarios and our reaction to them due to genetics telling us male bi-sexuality is abnormal, or is just because society says it’s abnormal. Perhaps if we lived in Ancient Greece or during the Renaissance, where sexual lines were more blurred, we would be more accepting. Or maybe you guys are getting it on too, you’re just not telling us about it.
One doctor’s reasoning in the article for why women are genetically able to find both sexes attractive is because they have to be comfortable with breast feeding both male and female babies. Um, what? Now I’ve never breast fed a child, but I have a really hard time imagining that I would be worried that people might question my sexuality just because my new born daughter needed to be fed. “I swear, I’m not Gay. I can’t speak for her, but…seriously, I’m straight! I swear. Damn it! Why did I have to have a gay baby”? I mean come on.
It just seems unfair that women can have their cake and eat it too while guys are more often forced to make a choice. What do you think?
But those photos of Danni Minogue with that stripper? So hot.